We’re converging 20 years of personal and spiritual transformation process with what we’ve gleaned this past year by hosting world-wide conversations on social change through Occupy Cafe. There is one challenge, voiced over and over, that we’re meeting head-on. Working collaboratively has proven to be an enormous challenge, not just for people with oppositional ideologies, but among like-minded people. People and organizations that could benefit tremendously from greater synergy. The challenges are more drastic when we cross sectors, political parties and cultural borders of all kinds.

We need to vastly increase our collaboration capacity to make the changes we seek in the world. And it’s going to take a creative blend of light and shadow work to get there.

Many of you have spent decades working on how to be more skillful in personal relationships and align with your purpose in life. We’re at a new threshold. It’s time to go to a new level in collective relationship, in our communities, locally and at large. For us to have the collective impact we need to make large-scale sustainable changes, we must actualize new levels of cooperation and synergy. We’ve already begun and…we could really use a boost. Time is challenging us to step up, to be creative and push the envelope with new ways of being, thinking and taking action.

This sacred healing journey of leaders, facilitators, activists, change agents and transformation artists is a unique and innovative pathway to evolve ourselves, our vision and our planet. Em-body the Change is one facet of a collective, evolutionary process that has launched within humanity, and will continue to strengthen and unfold over time.

To be clear, this is not a substitute for organizing and direct action. However, without this inner change, our missions to change our world will be extra difficult to fulfill. In fact, without inner change, outer changes ultimately backtrack to old ways. We will, however, be tapping in to the collective field to access possibilities for innovative and creative solutions outside the box of our current world views.

The great news is that our original human design gives us unlimited capacity to connect and function together as a powerful, coherent whole. Furthermore, this time in history supports the emergence of our wholeness at a radical new level. The key to allowing this emergence lies in re-membering how to rebuild and use the bridge between our body and mind, matter and spirit—remembering how to use the magnificent instrument that is our “cor”— our heart.

Healing our society and our planet must occur within, as well as through conscious, social action. All outer conditions and circumstances reflect our deeper internal relationship with ourselves.

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Is there is a more relevant, or important, conversation to be had than one exploring economy?  Though we instantly associate money, we quickly diversify to resources and our planet, energy, food, shelter, water—and the more basic the requirement for subsistance, the conversation lands squarely on people, and ultimately, life itself.

What about the people?  Where do we fit the value of human life, no less the value of all life, into our equations of economy?  Herein lies the rub—the dissatisfaction and suffering, or for some, the absence of much feeling at all, other than whether one’s own cup is full, or has, at least, something in it.  That’s what makes the #Occupy movement so compelling, warts, insecurities, growing pains and all.  People are standing shoulder-to-shoulder pointing an unmistakably large collective finger at “the economy” shouting, “Hey!  This doesn’t work!  It’s broken and we need to fix it!”  

Of course, that large finger is pointing at other people too—those 1% that are doing this—those banksters and their plutocratic ilk in cahoots with hegemonic politicians expanding imperial global dominance via militarized bullying.  There is a necessity for assessment and plain talk about what is, as well as a cathartic function for expressing one’s anger and indignation.  However, as important as these actions are, they are are only the initial steps toward true and lasting change.  There is no shortage of information and intelligent deconstruction of all the ways unjust economic, political, social, environmental, agricultural, et al policy and practice is executed and exacted on vulnerable populations on every continent.  However, that is not my focus for this blog, the book nor the transformational work attending to this topic.

My background and expertise lie in the realm of emotional and spiritual transformation, the alchemy of transmuting and restoring disempowered, devalued or non-optimized states of body, mind and being back to radiant, essential wholeness, purposefulness and fulfillment—the inalienable inheritance attendant to receiving a human birth.  I have had to live this process, first and foremost, for myself.  Though I’ve journeyed 40 years on this path since first awakening and have undergone cataclysmic transformations,  I am not done.  Nor do I believe anyone ever is—done.  Not even the “enlightened” ones.  I’ve been blessed with numerous “enlightenments”, each with its astonishingly diverse flavor, perhaps so that I would relinquish, once and for all, my idealized notions of a singlular “perfect state”.  The day the Universe runs its course, perhaps we can entertain “done”, though musings at that scale are merely, well…amusing.  In perspective, this divine game of “becoming” plays out on a scale that is incomprehensible to mind as we know it.  As such, it offers a key to authentic humility, as well as perspective for navigating this current evolutionary impulse to transmute this present dysfunctional economy to a system that honors and respects the sanctity and irreducible preciousness of life above all else.  

To transform economy is to transform our relationship with ourselves and life at its very core.

Not being steeped in academic economic theories or principles renders me a bit of freedom for fresh thought.  I’ll start with my definition of economy.  Economy is an emergent demonstration of the paradigm, or world view, from which we assess our personal value relative to the world around us.  From this core assessment of personal value, we assign value to others and all things in our world, both consciously and unconsciously.  We circulate and exchange these valuations at every level of social intercourse.  This process of circulation is broken down into discreet events we call transactions.  In a phrase, economy is the assessment, assignation and transaction of value.  Of course, as soon as we begin assigning value, giving it context and content, our pictures, definitions and models exponentially complexify.

The most significant contextual element that bears mention at this point, and which I’ll unpack later in depth (in subsequent installments on this blog), is the age-old infusion of the primal human survival imperative in this process—the fundamental dynamic of evolutionary progression of our species from instinctive fear and hostility toward reason, directed by Love and generosity.  This progression is mirrored in the gradual, now exponentially expanding, dissolution of borders of awareness between peoples.  Currently, due to the world-wide web, we could say that there are very few, if any, borders to people’s awareness of one another.  For thousands of years, we have been steadfastly expanding from insular tribal communities toward global inclusion and mutual recognition of all people on Earth, Gaia, as a whole, potentially self-aware organism, of which humans are intrinsic and vital parts, like highly a developed network of neural cells as propounded by Peter Russell in his brilliant video, Global Brain.  

As if coded directly into our DNA, it seems humans might have well been programmed to find one another via some impulse to seek the limit of horizons.  The problem has been the treatment of people upon those meetings.  Even among indigenous populations whom we tend to idealize as living in a most sacred manner, there were violent encounters.  The Hawaiian Islands, land of aloha, at times flowed with blood between warring tribes.  In our current technological age, aggression and violence on people targeted for exploitation of resources, natural and human, has reached unconscionable heights.  However, even among like-minded members of organizations for social change, it is not unusual to witness conflict and splintering over divergent viewpoints.  The manner in which we meet and harmonize our inevitable differences and recognize our common humanity—or not— is the factor which will ultimately determine whether we extinguish or flourish human presence on this planet.  

Economy may be the single, clearest demonstration of the condition of our relationship within and amongst ourselves and our planet.

Albert Einstein said, “When the solution is simple, God is answering.”  Because economies are intrinsically driven by individuals’ collective sense, the morphogenetic field at large, of internal value,  I believe in the simplicity of the following solution to our economic tangle.  Restore dignity to our human experience;  collectively reset our human compass so as to remember, resuscitate and energize the value of each and every human life on earth as the sacred expression of the divine that it is.  

It is within our primal acceptance or rejection, love or fear, of the moment-to-moment unfolding of our personal human experience, that our world is ultimately shaped and driven at the broadest levels of human systemic  organization.  We know from our own experience, the more we are infused with Love in any given moment, the more precious is everything around us, without prejudice or discount.  We cannot fail to be generous when threat is absent and safety is certain.

A fully opened heart can do no harm.  Alas, the execution and enactment of the most simple solutions can be paradoxically complex.  We could sooner make a horse drink at the trough than force open a human heart.  We are thousands of years along in this quest to exalt the principle of Love as the rule of law, yet we sense this nexus in time is truly a turning of the ages, a hallmark of paradigmic shifting—a seismic alteration of humanity’s worldview and the consciousness driving it.

There are many that believe our world can turn by revising and implementing systems that increasingly align with higher values.  I agree that we ought to do everything in our power to amend, renovate and replace, where necessary, structures and systems that are anathema with respect to the sacredness of life.  However, as strikingly demonstrated by David Graeber in his book, Debt: The First 5000 Years, without a collective shift in the consciousness that assesses and assigns value, economic systems ultimately recycle themselves.  Human systems, in general, are an out-pictured product of human consciousness, much more than the other way around.  Yes, circumstances and environment absolutely impact both individual and collective behaviors and attitudes, however, even those challenges are evoked from the deeper field of collective consciousness as part of a broader evolutionary agenda [this statement assumes soul intent]. Right now, our systems and structures are more oppressive and coercive than ever, selling fear and salvation through ever-tightening control and wholesale dissolution of individual freedoms with no sign of retreating.  Yet, rather than crumbling in helpless despair or shocked awe, voices of freedom grow stronger.

Many take heart to notice that as governments and certain classes of corporate entities and its allies escalate aggression, it is the spirit and conscience of people that is rising to disallow further cooptation of alienable rights to peaceful, fulfilling and sustainable existence.  It is the spirit of people that is asserting to restore balance and integrity in our transactions and relationships at every level and scale.  Marshal Rosenberg’s gift of Nonviolent/Compassionate Communication is surging with a life of its own.  Restorative Justice circles, Resilience circles and community circles of all kinds with names bearing the words: compassion, thrive, connect, synergy and convergence are blossoming, as if the season for circles had simply arrived the way wildflowers suddenly blanket hillsides after deep, cold winters.  

It is the innate dignity of life, the primordial value of indivisible essence, the unassailable wholeness of being that blazes through to heal and mend the wounds we have, more often than not, inflicted on ourselves.  We are irrepressible souls that embarked long ago on an audacious journey through the wilderness, stumbling out from unconsciousness, now dancing  toward the ever-present visage of utopian self-realization, the self-aware illumination in the fore lobes of our brain structures that we, indeed, are inextricably connected and whole as Gaia.  Who can say they know what that ultimately means or looks like.  The nature of emergence renders the outcome unknowable.  We do know, however, in the way that our heart’s intelligence communicates from our very core, that this emergence will be at a higher order of organization, of beauty and Love.   We feel “it”, each in our own way—and see “it”, each through our inner and outer eyes as we allow our inspiration the freedom to author-ize the magnificence of the future becoming.

The pathway to our new economy is multidimensional.  Yes, we must, as we are beginning to, examine and imagine new ways of assessing, transacting and tracking what is of value in our relationship to this world.  What might aspects and elements of equitable economic systems look like—currency, credit, gift, barter, time, private, commons, local, global…?  Systems of economy are founded on collective agreement—with our current agreement primarily in default to collective unquestioned assumptions and unconsciousness fears.  The degree to which we come to illuminate and mitigate individual internal transactions of consciousness (personal awakening) while understanding how to mediate diverse ideas and principles (respecting/trusting diversity as healthy rather than threatening) will determine the agreements, or lack thereof, that will drive this process.  

I’m not here to forge or propose content for new models, as Charles Eisenstein has ambitiously undertaken in his book, Sacred Economics.  I’m particularly interested and qualified in the process and dynamics of relationship which ultimately drive and express as the economy du jour.  A system is a framework which demonstrates the organization of flow.  Consciousness determines the quality of that flow.  The system becomes a tool.  Consciousness determines how that tool will be used.  Think knife—to destroy or to create—tis consciousness that decides.

Systems of every shape and form are constructed of relationships.  Most modern physicists would agree that the Universe itself, at every scale of manifestation, can be described in terms of relationship.  In fact, relationship is all there is.  The most fundamental relationship could be expressed as polarity, the dance between positive and negative and the resulting dynamics of movement we call flow.  Flow is the basis for life as we know it.  Without polarity, there can be no movement, not even a thought.  It is here, that we can merge science with the spirit of the Tao.  Life is flow between polarities: masculine/feminine; warm/cold; high/low; aggressive/passive; power over/power under; rich/poor; etc.  Simple enough.  Though, again, a conundrum.     

“All relationships are founded on one, the one with your self” is an insight I found, many years ago, to be unerringly true.  As within, so without.  This has been called the Law of Attraction—I prefer Law of Resonance.  As such, systems out-picture, or reflect, the aggregate consciousness of those that participate via sympathetic resonance.  Though we can occupy the apparently same field (room) as another person, we each focus, assemble and interpret our attention in very different ways.  For example, two can be listening to the same person.  Mark is having a frustrating experience, cascading with judgements with regard to the speaker, while Angela is smiling ear-to-ear, having the inspirational time of her life!  The choice is ours to receive each moment’s gift according to our heart’s, mind’s and body’s allowance. 

People who collectively share a compromised sense of dignity will generate experiences in systems that seem to compromise their dignity.  People who collectively marginalize their own value and worth will generate experiences in systems that marginalize human value.  Now, do I need to fix the system so that I no longer have the experience of feeling devalued?  When I re-read this question, it’s a trick question.  Yes and no.  Changing a system can temporarily relieve the symptoms of feeling devalued.  But like suddenly winning a massive cash lottery, without sourcing and integrating your inner lack of value, historical evidence shows you are likely to end up bankrupt and more in debt than before your windfall.  Changing the system or circumstances outside won’t shift your experience of unworthiness unless you’ve shifted from within.  We need to reorganize and recover our sense of who we are, independent of the system.  Our dignity is compromised when we rest it on something outside ourselves.  This, as a real-time example, is where we sit as a culture.  We need to recover our sense of self from external conditions—then we’re free to choose and create a system that aligns with our nature.  And if the system is corrupt?  We’ll have a much better chance of arriving at a sustainable solution and effective implementation if we get a handle on our dignity first.  From Love, our systems are self-correcting, like in our relationships that are healthy and successful.  

There are roles being played spanning both polarities that keep our system in place.  In order to have a field of undervalued players, we need those willing to be overvalued.  In this way, in #Occupy-speak, the 99% “need” the 1% to demonstrate and illuminate their lack, scarcity and powerlessness consciousness—and the inverse is true.  The 1% “need” the 99% to to demonstrate and illuminate their lack, scarcity and, believe it or not, powerlessness consciousness.  It’s easy to be fooled by superior posturing, though it’s often the clearest sign of fear in trusting life, where a person needs to maintain abject control over as much as possible for fear of losing their version of feeling safe.  To what degree do those that seize power and control mirror our own lack of trust?  What do you suppose might occur if a significant number of people dropped the other end of this polarity by embodying deep faith and trust?  We’re not at critical mass yet, but this is actually what’s happening and why there is amplified oppression against peaceful demonstrations.  Those that maintain their security by gripping the reigns with white knuckles are frightened of losing control.  Non-violence and compassion neutralizes polarity.  That means loss of control by those that believe they hold it.  What happens in a tug-of-war when one side let’s go of the rope?

This mass agreement around lack and scarcity is one of the primary, one could say primal, agreements that have held the old economy in place for millennia.  It has been deeply etched in the morphogenetic pathways of human consciousness for a very, very long time, even in those idealized, indigenous cultures to which Charles Eisenstein alludes.  Had indigenous tribes not held the shadow, their worlds could not have been invaded.  Native Americans prophesied the coming of white settlers because consciousness and “worlds” are fundamentally entwined.  We are converging in the realization that we all share the same consciousness.  Beyond “We are one” being the aphorism of the day, oneness means we share our light and our shadows.  There is no separation in the dance of cultures, races or religions on this planet.  As we move toward global sentience, we are being forced to awaken to just how connected we all are.  

One culture’s dream is another’s nightmare without this awakening.  With the realization of just how profoundly we all are connected, care for one becomes care for all.  One would no sooner exploit children in one country to satisfy one’s chocolate craving in another, than one would cut off one’s fingertips to fit into a stylish glove.  The thought ought to be absurd.  What would it take to become interested enough to know who is making our clothes and how they’re being treated?  Apple has been regularly exposed for allowing abominable working conditions by their Chinese suppliers.  Along with letting Apple know via petitions and witholding new purchases that cruel treatment of people is unconditionally unacceptable, a deeper question might be “Why do our hearts not ache intolerably?”  What needs to unlock inside of us, that we might allow ourselves to feel the full force of injustice, as if we were standing face-to-face with those suffering?  

To what degree have we each been willing to look the other way for convenience sake?  This is not a deluxe guilt trip.  I purchase things constantly while reading the label and feeling unsettled as to the conditions under which an item is manufactured—but I need that cord to connect my monitor to my, umm…Apple computer—but, I bought it used—but…  I’m not selling righteousness here, just food for inquiry to move forward in a way that will result in a difference—to the degree that what I do, in the grand scheme of all that is, makes a difference.  I suggest engaging with passionate detachment, going all out, while offering up the outcome.  Walk the edge of yourself, stepping over or stepping back as the moment informs you.  Staying in kindness, without enabling with yourself, is a primary strategy that will help you through the maze.  If you have a resistance to my last remark, may I suggest reviewing your beliefs and assumptions on the power of non-violence.

Collective transformation mirrors personal transformation.  I see us emerging from the age of personal growth and sparking, now, the age of collective growth (which still includes the personal, yet expands proactively beyond it).  In the same way that an abused child may ultimately rise up through the ashes and mire of broken trust and self-esteem, rage, shame and resentment (to name a few), whole communities and cultures are rising up.  The scale is massive, yet the groundwork that millions have laid through the pursuit of personal and spiritual growth over the past 50 years, in particular, is reverberating through collective consciousness, rattling and shattering shackles of old trances of peonage that are illusory, like an insignificant stake that can hold a grown elephant in place from birth.  That strategy is about to collapse on a massive scale.  The dignity of the human heart is exponentially reverberating into all hearts and the collective human spirit is now lifting the old stakes that have relied on a simple trick of perception.  Or, like the bombastic wizard of Oz, all powerful while behind the curtain, but quite ordinary and surprisingly benign when exposed.  We can always intend the best, after all, we are ultimately the authors of our experience.

A New Inner Economy: Restoring Dignity to Our Human Experience will unravel and illuminate this inner landscape of human value and connection.  We’ll look at this territory in the context of a much larger evolutionary complex that is unfolding through time.  I have found in the healing and reintegration of my own life, as well as the lives of many I have touched, that understanding the higher intent behind sometimes excruciating circumstances, raises one’s core sense of value out of the pits of despair, regret, shame and guilt, restores the inherent dignity with which all life is infused upon its inception.  On the foundation of inalienable dignity, a just and sustainable economy will spontaneously emerge, for it shall reflect the recognition, illumination and exchange of love within one’s self without reservation or condition.  In the meantime, we’ll continue to merge our hearts and minds to embody the change we know we can be—exploring, experimenting, testing, failing, succeeding, failing some more…learning—emerging.  What else is there to do at a time like this?

“Healthy boundaries  take away unneeded stress in all relationships, intimate and professional.

Hint: They’re not necessarily walls.”

~ Jitendra

Boundaries are often confusing territory. This is because they are initially established unconsciously.

The first stage of recovering healthy boundaries usually involves setting clear and firm external limits with agreements and a firm ability to say “No.”

But unless you want to spend your life (and a lot of energy) maintaining those boundaries, the next stage of boundary awareness moves inside—to the source of what drives your experience with others.

1. Do you struggle for clarity in your relationships?
2. Do you wonder when enough is enough or if you should give or allow more?
3. Are you confused over whether your requests are reasonable?
4. Do you avoid conflict by not setting boundaries or making requests?
5. Is it hard for you to say no or are you always setting the limit?
6. Are your requests overlooked or ignored?

These are just a handful of questions that constantly come up from students and clients around boundaries and healthy relationship.

The journey to establishing healthy boundaries from the inside out truly begins by becoming clear about what is OK and not OK with you.  This is a process of recovering your value, deservability and inner authority.

Often times, there is great confusion distinguishing personal space; where it begins and ends.  Common for adults who were raised by overbearing or abusive caregivers, is difficulty in understanding that personal space exists at all.  These people tend to have very diffuse or porous boundaries and ultimately feel like doormats, that others walk all over them.  The reaction can vary from collapsing into helplessness to violently swinging into fits of intolerance or passive aggressive tactics to secure safety by making space.

On the other side, adults who were raised by overly permissive parents, can struggle to appreciate how their behaviors affect others, that simply doing what they please is not going to build sustainable relationships over time.

There are many variables and scenarios regarding boundaries, making this topic one of the most pervasive challenges in relationships of all kinds.

Boundaries from the inside out are governed by Law of Attraction.  However, this understanding must be dealt with delicately, with great compassion and understanding.  Under no circumstances are you EVER to blame yourself, or make your “child self” responsible for boundaries violations that occurred at any point in your life.

This is a deeper and more complex issue that space and time here will not permit.  I will say, however, that taking responsibility for your internal agreements is done from the perspective of your adult persona only.  The child aspects of one’s self require a different kind of attention and presence that I strongly recommend you learn with skilled and knowledgeable assistance.

Ultimately, you must understand your soul mission with regard to what you’ve come to integrate in this life, aka your life lessons.  These “lessons” will always point to where awareness and Love need to be directed within.  You’ll come to understand how boundaries actually equal internal agreements.

Boundaries from the inside out are covered in great depth and detail in the Core Awakening Journey as well as private sessions.  Understanding and solving your boundary issues can provide tremendous relief from stress and uncertainty at home and at work.  You will gain respect from others and, more importantly, with your self.  Boundaries are the doorway to relaxing into your skin and your personal power.

“There is an overarching, underlying belief that awakening is a long, arduous attainment for but a select few.

There is also a phenomenon in consciousness that things tend to be as difficult as we make them.

Awakening to one’s true nature is not for a select few, it is everyone’s birthright and a natural developmental progression.

May I share a secret for you?  It’s closer and so much more accessible than you might have imagined.”

~ Jitendra

The frequency of awakening is increasing. The “veil” between worlds is getting thinner.  We are in a time where knowledge and insight can be sent and received around the planet in the blink of an eye without developing any special psychic powers.

Awakening is right here, right now.

It is a dance between believing it is possible and slowing down and knowing HOW to look.

There are as many flavors of awakening as there are people, so let go of measuring your experience against another person’s.  It will always be unique and perfect for you.

“Emotional freedom can mean different things to different people.

For some, it’s freedom from emotion.  For some it’s freedom of emotional expression.

For others, it’s the freedom of feeling empowered in the midst of whatever emotion is arising.”

~ Jitendra

“Emotional freedom” has become a very popular phrase. It’s a title for books, trademark for a technique and the aim of many a process.  Emotional freedom is promised in a variety of flavors and is being embraced for exploration by a growing contingent of hopeful hearts.

1. Some feel emotional freedom when they manage their emotions into a state of calm.

2. Some feel emotional freedom when they freely express whatever emotion is present in the moment, without restriction.

3. Others feel emotional freedom when they experience the flow of emotion as a dance, fluidly blending with, and digesting, whatever arises.

Every person’s emotional constitution is unique.

Ultimately, emotional freedom is reflected by an ever deepening continuity of loving connection with yourself and the moment-to-moment unfolding of life experience.

“One view of the Law of Attraction focuses on external outcomes.  It says that by creating a certain inner resonance you will attract an outer reality to match that resonance.

The inside view of the Law of Attraction focuses on the inner state.  It notices that whatever is in your outer field of awareness is an out-picturing of the sum total of your consciousness.”

~ Jitendra

I often hear people say that the Law of Attraction isn’t working for them. Though it may FEEL like it’s not working, you can be certain it is – flawlessly.

The Law of Attraction may not be working the way you’d like, but on a soul level, it’s always working for you.  It’s a virtual reality feedback system.  You can see your soul lessons materialize before your very eyes, in 3D living color.  That is so cool, isn’t it?  Takes a lot of the guesswork out of wondering where this or that in your life is coming from!  Well, maybe not a lot of the guesswork.  But, definitely a little.

The real challenge in accepting what you see outside as a reflection of your own consciousness, lies in finding enough Love and Compassion within yourself to absorb it without judgment.  It’s challenging because most humans have been trained in the art and application of guilt, shame and blame.

I’m not particularly fond of the Law of Attraction label.  I much prefer Law of Resonance or Law of One.  The popular meme that has sprouted from Law of Attraction tips the focus onto the “stuff out there.”  Unfortunately, people default into disappointment and failure when they don’t manifest the “stuff”, only reinforcing the guilt/blame/shame cycle.

The truth is, Law of Attraction is unerringly in operation in every moment.  In Love mode, you’re able to see your experiences for what they truly are, movements of consciousness designed to induce a deeper, broader and more thorough realization of your soul intent.  From this perspective, judgment dissolves, forgiveness spontaneously arises and you can see the Law of Attraction in its pure form, a perfect mirroring of consciousness in the physical realm—resonance mirroring resonance.

I just emerged from teaching Core Initiation (Level 1) this weekend having made one point over and over again.  At the core of every experience of separation from joy, connection and fulfillment lies guilt or judgment.  By force of age-old programming, there is a profound tendency to judge one’s self whenever an experience is not unfolding according to “plan” or expectation.

Judgment naturally dissolves when you embody your core value.  Your core value is an embodied understanding that your value doesn’t depend on the outcome of any experience.  Enlightenment isn’t about some abstract ideal of perfection, it’s a capacity and ability to stay in Love with yourself no matter what is unfolding in the moment.   That is unconditional Love in its most grounded and practical form.

Inside Law of Attraction lies the understanding that we can use manifest reality to illuminate that which is hidden from our awareness.   The power of LOA lies in its revealing of shadow so that we might bring it the light of loving awareness.

Law of Attraction is never arbitrary. It will always provide a reflection of where Love is needed most.

“One of the greatest desires humans possess is the desire for connection.

The secret to fulfilling this desire for connection has to do with the quality of contact you have with your self.

What does “contact” with your self actually mean — and what is “quality” contact?

~ Jitendra

Our human bodies are designed for contact and yet it is, both, what people seek most AND fear most.  Why the great mystery and challenge?

People long for contact through intimate relationships,  yet it can often be inconsistent, unhealthy or even nonexistent.  It’s easy to blame the other person and/or yourself for failing to give you the experience you long for.  Yet, blame and guilt will always be counter-productive.

Your answer lies in growing your ability and capacity to make contact with your self.  Deeper, more conscious, more loving contact with your self.  This means being able to feel your self: recognize your emotions, recognize your response to your emotions, track the source of both your emotions and your response while staying present, loving and conscious throughout the whole process.

This is what contact means, or more accurately, the process of opening into contact.  It would be relatively simple if the territory holding most of your stored emotion wasn’t so highly defended.  In most cases, the default defense is unconsciousness.  Have you ever experienced feeling suddenly drowsy when beginning to talk about difficult issues?  Or maybe you’ve seen it happen to someone else.

I see it all the time in my trainings, especially.  I’ll start speaking about deep, subconscious patterns and suddenly heads are tipping over.  People literally start passing out, unable to stay conscious, i.e.- in contact, with old, difficult feelings stored in the body.

The greater the fear and/or judgment held on a past experience, the less likely your bodymind will allow you to stay present or conscious for that contact.  It’s the deeper realms of emotion tied to less than happy, or empowered, situations from the past that present the greatest challenges.

The answer? I thought you’d never ask.  Choosing to consciously embody Love.  This means shifting your body and mind by activating your physical heart.  The real skill is in learning how to stay in contact with the old fear-based sensations in your body while embodying Love.  The degree to which you are able to embody and sustain Loving presence determines the quality of your contact experience.

The result is expanding your capacity to be present for your own emotional experience without getting swept away, as well as your partner’s and anyone else.  This strengthens and deepens your capacity to be in contact with others while deepening your own Loving Presence.

This is the core of our journey into the new millennium.  Now is the time for humanity to leap forward by learning how to bring Love to where fear has ruled in the past and where Love is needed most in the present.  It is an expansion and embodiment of the Great Wisdom Teachings through all ages.  It is the fulfillment of incarnating Loving Awareness into Matter, a sacred marriage of Heaven and Earth, Divine Father and Divine Mother, via your own body.

This is the Core Awakening Journey, heart awakening journey, changing our world and reality by embodying Love at deeper and deeper levels.  It is liberation through unconditionally loving contact.  This is the most sacred application of the Law of Attraction, also known as the Law of Resonance and Law of One.

Much Love and ALOHA ~

Jitendra

Co-dependence or Compassion?

 It’s not always obvious what the answer is.

The difference lies not in the act of helping itself, but in the attitudes surrounding the act.

When your desire to help mixes with a belief that someone isn’t capable without you, you enter the sticky world of co-dependence.”

~ Jitendra

This question is one of the most common in relationships of all kinds.  It’s perfectly natural to want to help those we care about.  And it’s healthy to be able to ask for help!

We do need one another to fulfill the many complex demands of living our lives.  So how can you tell what’s too much help…or too little?  I’ve seen people completely withdraw from both offering and asking for fear of “doing it again”, believing it is the act of kindness itself that is the culprit.  No wonder there’s so much confusion.

The difference between co-dependence and compassion lies in the attitude of both the giver and receiver.

Co-dependence occurs when the receiver makes another person responsible for their experience — and the giver agrees.  Both parties agree to support one person’s experience of disempowerment and the other person’s experience as the rescuer.  It may feel like compassion to one or both, but underlyingly it’s not loving to support a person’s fear or doubt about themselves.  Nor is it compassionate to reinforce disempowering behaviors and habits.

Stacey is scared to feel her emotions regarding abandonment and so she clings to her friend, Terry, every spare minute she finds her available, asking her for constant support so she’s not depressed.  Even though Terry is feeling uncomfortable not having enough personal space, she shies away from saying, “No,’ whenever Stacey asks for help.  Terry doesn’t notice that she has her own deep resistance to feeling her own loss and takes on soothing Stacey’s feelings as a substitute.

Compassion begins when you recognize and meet your own fear with loving presence.  Be there, first, for yourself.  Then you’ll have empathy rather than pity for another person (and yourself).  In love with your own experience, in contrast to fear and resistance, you’ll have a much healthier gauge for knowing what kind and how much support is enough.  This makes your help empowering rather than enabling.

QUICK TIP: Ask yourself, “How do I really feel about this situation?”  If you feel uncomfortable or confused, then you can be pretty certain you are closer to co-dependence than compassion.

Learn how to be present for your own feelings and emotions before you take on someone else.  Get help to LEARN the skill of how to be with yourself.

The awakening journey requires discernment and emotional fluidity.

Find qualified support if you don’t already have it.  I offer counseling, mentoring and training programs that specialize in this area.  Regardless of whether it’s through me or another trusted source, learn the skills necessary to be there for yourself so that you can give the support and help your heart desires.

Compassion is always healing and empowering.

ALOHA ~

Then why fear it?

What is the cost of opening?  Is the risk real or imagined?

What is this fear of Love at close range, actually?

’tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. ~Alfred Lord Tennyson

How delicious to relax into intimacy. When faith, trust and loving relationship converge, there is an opening to profoundly expand connection with your s/Self and another.

Beautiful and profound words…and true!

So then why do you suppose those occasions exist when people would rather have their fingernails plucked than open their hearts? What is the harm, actually, in allowing oneself to feel needed, or riskier yet, to feel in need?

This is a dilemma faced by more people than you may think.  In fact, even those with sophisticated psychological and spiritual insight are not immune to the challenge of letting go to intimacy.

As a child of abuse, intimacy was the most trying challenge of my life.  However, by way of bridging these gaps inside myself, I have gained a detailed understanding of how to navigate this territory in order to share it in a clear and understandable way to others.

Intimacy, at its core, is sharing of one’s self with another.  The more loving, open and aware, the deeper and more satisfying the intimacy.  That awareness, of course, must always start with yourself.  Herein lies both the problem and the solution.

The foundation of intimacy rests on your Love, respect and acceptance for yourself.  This is not new information.  What remains less understood, is how to bring loving awareness into the most protected, non-conscious dimensions of one’s being where the least Love resides.  The depth of loving contact and safety you desire from intimacy with another must begin with knowing how to meet the depth and breadth of your self, unconditionally in Love.

Intimacy is a moment-to-moment embrace of a multidimensional unfolding of conscious awareness in relationship to the sensory exchange with your immediate and at-large environment, whether alone or in union with another.  Intimacy is based on your capacity to remain present with, and integrate, feelings which include emotion.

As you meet and integrate hidden aspects of your self that have been held out of Love,  you truly begin to let go, open and relax into your own skin at increasingly deeper levels.  Relax into your skin, relax into intimacy.

I can’t imagine anything worth risking more than my heart.  In truth, it’s no risk at all.

Acceptance leaves your will intact, resignation leaves it behind.

Resignation happens when you can’t find your choice in a matter—or believe no choice exists.

Acceptance happens when you willingly choose to embrace a situation, knowing in your heart it is soul-directed for your highest good.”          ~ Jitendra

I’m often asked to explain the difference between acceptance and resignation. I know many people who sincerely and reverently describe how they are surrendered in their lives. They tell me how they’ve accepted God’s Will or some circumstance in their life that feels out of their control.  They explain how they’ve moved their ego out of the way and accepted what is.  The problem is, they’ve actually abdicated their will and suffer from what I call a spiritual depression.  This is where a person, in order to feel spiritually aligned, has toned down their level of aliveness and enthusiasm to an unpassionate (in contrast to healthy dispassion) expression that mimics non-attachment.

I’m thinking of an old friend in particular who is a well known and loved spiritual teacher and author.  I still remember hearing him say that he was not in relationship because God had chosen to leave him single.  The problem wasn’t whether he was single or not, it was that he was depressed and unhappy and felt powerless to change his circumstance.  So he told himself and friends this spiritually correct story of how he was in acceptance of his dilemma.  But he left an all important step out of the acceptance process, and that was an empathic connection with a deeper aspect of himself himself that felt hopeless.

If you are feeling at all victimized, frustrated or helpless then you are closer to resignation than acceptance.  Acceptance asks that you both feel your emotions completely while holding the higher purpose of your circumstance in view.