Love r-evolution

Even though Pia and I are still celebrating Valentine’s Day each day…I HIGHLY recommend it…it’s time to head this blog anew.

We were having an absolutely delightful conversation with new friends, Stephanie Roh and Doug Lagore, today on the topic of living love in real time.  They also are devoted to bringing Love forth for everyday practical use (check out their beautiful work).  As funny as it may sound sometimes, after all who wouldn’t want Love to infuse their every move, it is also one of the most challenging undertakings on the face of this planet.  This is a paradox I have been unraveling for decades.  What is the paradox you ask?  It’s that Love is both cherished and terrifying, liberating and confining, ecstatic and excruciating.  I can clarify a great deal of the mix-up straight off by saying that all the positives I named refer to the actual experience of Love and the negatives are trances of fear masquerading as Love.  The problem is your body generally runs first and asks questions much later, seeing as how it generally feels far safer behind its instinctual survival strategies [Instinctual Survival Zone™]. The body often has Love and fear switched in terms of priority.  Your mind says it wants Love, but often your body wants out.  You think you want closeness but your body screams “Nooooooo……..”— quietly and cleverly plotting an escape.  Well it has to be clever to make you think it’s the other person’s fault that you need to back away and take space.  In fact, it may be so clever that you only pick people that you SHOULD back away from.   Sorry to be so dreary here.   It’s just that the more aware you are of the patterns in play, the better armed you are to stay their sway…and rather enjoy it.  If we’re going to turn our evolutionary blueprint on its ear we might as well learn to have a good time of it.  It’s taken me most of my 50+ years to learn a smile, but it was worth the wait.  Just don’t wait if you can help it.

I think of this territory as the new r-evolutionary frontier. Our physiology is quite literally in an evolutionary growth spurt, seeking to evolve from reliance on fear for survival, to trusting love.  This means that rather than contracting and recoiling or loading for a strike, you will open and ground through your heart to connect with the One flow of life force, trusting in the Divine Intelligence of Love to meet the moment as needed.  We are graduating from reaction to reason. Not reason as a sterile mental assessment but reason in the Biblical sense, the intervention and infusion of Love into thought and action—as the NEW instinct!  Now doesn’t that sound refreshing and liberating…not to mention a bit Pollyanna.  Now, if this were a simple matter, we would long ago have had a revolution of Love on this planet.

Ahhh…but here’s the rub.  Bodies are imprinted, conditioned and therefore coded to rely on fear habits for survival [ I.S.Z.].  Our collective quest in this millennium is to introduce Love into ancient, fossilized pathways that instinctively conduct consciousness outside of loving awareness in order to preserve our biology. However, we can no longer tolerate dismissing, disregarding or minimizing our relationship to our embodied presence. This means giving up the belief that living in a body is somehow inferior to life beyond it.  This means recoding the hardwired resistance to honoring our walk on this planet, collectively over-turning “original sin”.  It matters little what your faith is or whether you claim none at all, “original sin” is embedded in the DNA of the bones of humanity. You can spot its symptoms in displays of guilt, blame and shame.  This resistance to loving our embodied self has landed us at the brink of irreversible planetary demise in a climate of really poor behaviors between humans at large. Personally, I don’t  see us actually going over the edge. Too much faith in the power of Love for that.  And, that faith rests on a trust that we’ll all keep putting one foot in front of the other and show up the way we each intended.

I do promote a one size fits all solution though actually getting the solution to fit well takes quite a bit of tailoring.  The solution is value.  Your core value.  Your worth after being stripped of every external embellishment and accoutrement.  Without your shoes or hair, silk or polyester, simonized 10-layer clear coat shine or sun-peeled vinyl roof, you are who you are and always have been.  You are indisputably Divine.  Your true value can never be enhanced nor reduced.  To embody your value is to embody unconditional Love.  For that experience of Love unconditioned—of Self unconditioned—leaves you unadorned in the most glorious and incontrovertible realization of your true magnificence.  Imagine the reflections…